I attended a candlelight vigil at a park in Pennsylvania to remember those who have been lost to suicide. It’s always an emotional event. You see so many people crying, embracing each other, balloons freely flying in the sky to remember loved ones, people sharing their stories, tears of grief and pain glistening in the candlelight and the list of people being read gets longer every year. This year, it was over 400 names. Though I haven’t lost someone close to me to suicide, I always get emotional because I think about all the people, all around the world who feel that life is not worth living, and in a moment of desperation, ended their life. I also think about what could’ve been if I succeeded in my own attempt about 10 years ago. However, that’s not the point…
My point is simple. Never give up. It sounds so simple to say, but trust me, I am living proof that if you keep going, it does get easier and it’s worth it. You may slip and fall. You may take 2 steps forward and 3 steps back, but any forward progress is great! Don’t let one moment of pain take away the rest of your life. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Asking for help can be scary because you are putting yourself out there when you’re already in a vulnerable state. Getting help will take time, trust, hard work and it will take a toll on your mind, but once you surrender all of your vices, or even one at a time, things will start to get better. Your mind will start to clear. It’s up to YOU. I am one of many that will tell you that getting help will change your life in a positive way. I will leave you with this…
“If you feel like giving up, just look back on how far you are already”
There is a song I love to listen to that is very motivating and helps remind me to use my biggest coping skill; breathing. The song is Just Keep Breathing by We the Kings. It came out a few months ago and the second I heard it, I was attached. Recently, I saw them in concert and they performed this song. It was a great feeling to take a moment to remember that when obstacles come my way, to always remember to just keep breathing and keep going.
So, my advice to you? Take a listen to the song. Read the lyrics, see how/if you relate to them. Like or even love the song? Add it to your Stay Strong or Be Brave or Motivating/Inspiring playlist and listen to it whenever you feel the need.
Here’s a link to the song, Just Keep Breathing. I hope you enjoy it just as much as I do.
I know you all have a song or an artist you can relate to and when you’re feeling a certain way, you put on that song or that artist and you jam out or cry or laugh.
Music has always meant a lot to me. No, I can’t sing or write music, but i can appreciate music and the artist that has put all the work into the lyrics they write. Whether it’s a Disney song, rap, pop, country, classical or even a Christian song, if it helps me, it’s on the list. I’ve learned to take the music with me wherever I go. Thank God for technology right? I’ve made many playlists and CDs named Motivation or Stay Strong for when I need that spark to keep going.
Try it. Go through your iTunes and look for every song that helps you in a positive way. Add it to a playlist and name it something that represents what those songs do for you.
And please share your songs and experiences with that song with me. I love to hear your stories and new music. I will also be sharing songs that help me and my experiences with them throughout this blog.
We should all be in this together to try and help each other. The smallest thing can make someone’s day.
I’m starting a blog to help people develop or find new coping skills. I have my own story of mental illness which I will share later, but this is just an introduction. My name is Kristen. I’m 26 years old and I am a therapist for children. Over the years, I have developed my own coping skills through going to my own therapist. I am here to share my coping skills and how they have helped me in hopes that someone can get something positive out of what I share. I will be posting different coping skills whether it be songs, relaxation techniques, how to change your thoughts, etc. If there is anything else you woul like me to post, don’t hesitate to let me know!! 🙂